This Just In

Not much is happening in my world.....

I finally decided to register my business and I am currently working on some marketing materials, which should be done something this week. Next will be hitting the street to get the word out there and increase my clients. I am currently working with a couple clients and have been for a while. It will be a pleasure to take this project from just an idea to a very profitable company. It is the ride that I am looking forward to the most... the money will be an added bonus.

My little sister had her prom last week and she was stunning.... I mean the girl is a beauty, she will be breaking many hearts before long. Still can't believe she is graduation from high school in less than a week. And so smart - full scholarship to a local university, honors, valedictorian, top student in her school... nice for a kid who barely pass middle school with all D's. What a difference a summer makes I guess.

Wedding plans are moving along - this is the August Wedding. Much to be done but it is moving along. I ended up attending another wedding about 2 weeks ago.. and it was an experience to say the least. I've never been to a traditional African wedding celebration before so I did not know what to expect and considering that the entire thing was not in English. I would have to say that I did a really good job not looking confused at all. The bride was very beautiful and was able to make a dress change. The fashion left me mouth open the entire night. Lets just say I now have several ideas for my own wedding fashion.

Well I have a very busy day tomorrow so Sweetest Dreams to all.....

Three down, another one to go

Well..... today was the perfect day for a wedding. Although it was a bit chilly the sun was bright and beautiful. The bride was beautiful - she wore white (funny that I mention it because so far this is the first pure white wedding gown I've seen). The colors were green and it was a really nice spring green not too pale and not too dark. Just plain beautiful.

The groom was handsome, he looked a bit nervous to be standing there for all to see his reaction to his bride. When she walked in, he was full of emotion. She was stunning as her father walked her down the isle.... the wedding was very beautiful - there was a poem read by a performance artist accompanied by the groom's daughter on violin. It was touching, it was romantic, it was beyond words. (Makes you want to run of and buy some romance).

Oh did I mention that all the ladies night girls were in attendance.....yes and we all looked fabulous.... Just plain beautiful.

All in all a beautiful day for a wedding.

Brides Brides Everywhere

Well it was a hell of a weekend.

The wedding marathon began with me heading out to CT on Friday afternoon for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner for the first wedding. It was pouring and driving was kinda a bitch. Before I left, I went to get my hair done so that I would not have much trouble on Saturday but that did not work out as I expected. My hair looked fabulous but by the time I got to the church, all my curls were gone. No worries. I was great to see the bride and groom and visit with the families (some of whom I'd not seen in a couple of years). Rehearsal was good and the dinner was nice (especially the open bar). Luckily I stayed at the hotel where the dinner was hosted, nice right. So I got my instructions, said hello to everyone so they know me because I had to give them direction the next day... make sure that everyone was there and had everything they needed.

Saturday was an early start... the maid of honor called me at 7 to ask me if I had the ring bearer's box, the rings needed to be put into the box)... I did have it but that meant I was up earlier than I wanted to be. So me being me, I fell back to sleep and got up late.... so I was rushing to get to the hotel to meet the Groom and Groomsmen. I did get there a good deal ahead of the limo - once it arrived made sure all was set for the reception and the grooms parents and brides uncle were off to the church. Then I headed there myself.

Everyone looked beautiful, the bridesmaids and the groomsmen. The bride was stunning. I get everyone wrangled.... and we were to begin at 11 - actually slightly after 11. There were a few late guests......once they were seated, it was time to close the doors and line up the bridesmaids, the groomsmen were already at the altar...... then it was her show. She looked fabulous. There was a full mass and when that was completed about 45 minutes later, it was time to greet her guess and take pictures. We headed to the Pier, the sun made an appearance just so she could take pictures outside. And I headed to the reception to await their arrival... the guess were enjoying cocktails and we got them ready for the bride and groom and the bridal party to be announced. All went off smoothly... but 3 pm - everything was set and the eating began. I said my goodbyes and prepared to leave. Second wedding dinner began at 5:30 and it was a 2 1/2 hour drive.

I left the first wedding reception at 3:30. I took the wrong road and ended up taking longer than expected. But I finally arrived at the reception. The bride look stunning in her off white strapless gown. She went with a low key wedding. A private ceremony in the afternoon and then dinner with family and friends that evening. A piano player keep the atmosphere mellow and romantic. Granted I was at the "singles" table... sort of - there were 2 couples there and the rest were females. No single guys to speak of. And isn't that the point of most receptions, to hook up your single friends now that you are hitched. :-) It was elegant and romantic and very low key - the bride and groom made the rounds and it was very intimate.

I have to say congratulations to both of them and they begin a new phase of their lives.

Well on to number 3... that will be this Sunday - May 6, 2007

So the adventure begins

Well it is April... and that means my wedding season begins. In 26 days, two of my really close friends will be getting married. The first wedding - in CT - will be part work part pleasure. I am helping her with some of the coordination the day before and the day of her wedding. So I will be heading to CT either on Thursday or Friday before so I can prepare and get everything ready for the rehearsal and then the actually ceremony. Then I get to leave and head back to MA to attend the wedding dinner of my other friend. She is having a private ceremony during the day and then a dinner about 6 that evening. I am very happy for both of them.

Then the following Sunday, May 6, one of my best friends from high school is getting married to her long time boyfriend. We had a surprise bridal brunch for her yesterday- it was just the girls from our little Ladies Night group.. she was really surprised. Her official bridal shower will be later this month - that will be attended by all her family and friends.

So for the next month all my Saturdays are completely booked with one event or another. The next wedding will be in August but there is still lots to do when it comes to that one, since I am helping her coordinate that one as well.

So there will be (in my small circle of girlfriends) including myself - 3 single gals. Everyone else will be part of a set.

Valentine's Day

A happy day for some and a not so happy one for others. Especially those who got a shit load of snow today....But seriously...

Happy VD to all those who have someone, those who are looking and those who don't give a shit.

It Would Be Nice!!!

Court:
to try to win somebody’s love
to spend time together in a romantic relationship as a prelude to getting married

When did art courting become obsolete? Today there is not effort put it to the pursuit of a mate. It is something that many men lack today. Now it is all about hitting it and that is it. When then the games begin….where did the honest and real act of expression interest in the opposite sex fall by the wayside? I am a bit old fashion in thinking that a lady should be courted (properly that is). Maybe I will open a school.

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a womanPhenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care.'
Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

by Maya Angelou

Happy Birthday to a Special Boy

Today is my nephew's birthday.... his is 6 years old. He is such a cutie pie and unfortunately I did not get a chance to see him today to give him the biggest hug and kiss his auntie could manage. I did talk to him on the phone and I will get to see him tomorrow. Yeah...

New Beginnings

Well all I can say is that the year has started off with a big bang. And I plan on keeping the momentum going until the biggest birthday bash in November. Yeah I am thinking about November now. I plan on having a kick arse birthday celebration on November 30. I am planning on having my closest friends (and whoever they bring) and family with me to celebrate my 35th birthday. So I am beginning to plan now. Invitations will be mailed - no emails or phone calls. So please if you are among the lucky, please understand that I really want you there with me on that day and RSVP... yeah there will be a registry of some sort (not sure exactly, but be prepared).

The first 18 days of the new year...... have been wonderful and I expect the rest of the year to be spectacular. I know that I've mention a couple of times already but I have the privilege of attending maybe 5 weddings this year. The first 2 are on the same day (April 28th) one in CT and the other in MA. I am so excited - I am glad that I will be able to attend both because both of these women are very special to me and I would hate to have to miss their wedding. So I have committed myself to making it to both. Then the following weekend on May 5 one of my best friends from high school is getting married to her long time boyfriend. This was a surprise because she only announced it in September. Then I have another best friend who wedding is in August...(whew, I get a really nice break between May and August).... I am helping out with details on two of the weddings. April and August. So I will be very busy helping them stay as calm as possible by doing some of the grunt work. There is another wedding in October (not 100% sure about that - space might be an issue- will wait to see if I get an invite..).

Now, you may be thinking - wow her boyfriend is going to have a hell of a time at all these weddings. Don't worry, he will be fine with the entire situation... since he does not exist. I will be attending these weddings solo. I really don't want to but I don't really have a choice since I don't have a man. I told a friend that I might just rent one or a couple just for the occasions....LOL Yeah I laughed at first but then I gave the idea a serious thought... before I completely dismissed it.

You never know... maybe WalMart might have a mega sale... and roll back the prices on gorgeous men - I could buy 2 get one free. Since I am going to 2 on the same day, I will only need one man for that one....

Happy New Year

OK - So another year has passed.... What can I say....

I have all the hopefulness and strong belief that this new year will being me lots of love, joy and most of all a successful pursuit of happyness.

To all my friends I wish you a wonderfully prosperous 2007.

Santa I've been good.....

Well.....I think Santa lost my address this year. Cause there was nothing under the tree for me when I woke up this morning.... Well actually that is not entirely true... I did get a couple of dollars and was able to buy something that I wanted (not needed)... and I am loving that gift.

Maybe next year I will install a landing stip with flashing light on my roof so he does not forget about me.

Merry Christmas!!!!!!!

Happy Holidays!!!!!!!

Seasons Greeting!!!!!!!!

So...It was OK....

It was OK... The speed dating thing. I mean it was not as bad a match.com. At least the guys tried to have a conversation with you before rejecting you... :-)

Honestly... I did have an OK time. I had 8 dates.... talk to 8 guys. Had some interesting conversations... laugh a bunch that was really cool. I mean I really did not go into it with any expectations at all. I figure at events like this.... there isn't much diversity, and I was right. And not all people are open minded. Personally, I am not the type to not talk to someone who different from me....and I guess I assume people are that way as well.

I am open to the possibility of meeting a person that I am compatible with regardless of their race or ethnic background and I am noticing that most men are not that open to it.

So what's a girl to do. I am going to just take a break. I mean seriously. This process is feeling like a full time job and it is starting to get stressful. And that is not fun.... this is suppose to be fun, right? Well if it is, when does it start?

Anyway back to my experience - so the wait now begins... you have to log in to their website to put enter your matches.... if you want to see a particular person again for another date or friendship....or whatever.... now in order to have a match - both people have to pick the same category. If they do, then you get there contact info so you can talk or met again. If no one picks you for any category then there is not match and you got to go to another event for free.

I am glad it tried it - I can add it to my nice long list of date options I've tried. Maybe I need to try normal stuff... like the supermarket, the street, the train (kinda impossible since i don't use public transport), someone suggest volunteering but I would never do that to just meet someone. I will volunteer to help a group with whatever they need. Oh well... back to the mundane that is my life.

Something New?

Or is it going to be the same old same old. I am trying to keep an open mind. This evening a friend and I will try speed dating. Ask me why I keep torturing myself but I guess I am a glutton for punishment. It was suppose to be a bunch of us girls getting together to have some fun. But it only ended up being 2 of us. I am still looking forward to getting out and meeting people in my age group.

Like I told her today - I am going in to this with no expectations..... I am going to have a good laugh and get out of the mundane that has become my life (of late). I am even considering trying other new things... like skiing (yeah, i laughed myself). I am a self-professed Tropical Bird... I don't like being cold. But you know what... I wouldn't mind giving it a try at least once in my life. I also want to go fishing... (please stop laughing)... yes I know i have a problem with crawly things, so someone is going to have to help me with baiting my line.... but I just want to try it at least one... you never know, I might just end up liking it.

There are lots of things I've never tried. I want to learn to ride a bicycle, then a motorcycle and swim (i confess... that swim class in college did not help me, I still can't tread water). I want to learn to drive race cars (to do that i need to learn to drive a standard). I want to learn to drive an 18 wheeler.... I will ride the superman ride at six flags one of these days. I want to see the world - Ireland, Scotland, London, Italy - just to name a few. I want to get into photography - I took a couple of classes in college and I really enjoyed it. I want to learn to salsa, mambo and waltz, belly dance and strip. I've got the Caribbean dancing down ;-)

I will be back with the skinny on the speed dating event..... wish me luck

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!!!!!

Well... I had big plans for the 34th year of my life. I set a nice goal for myself (at least one that I thought was attainable)..... I wanted to look a certain way, feel a certain way, do certain things, be certain places. And as you may have guessed from the entry.... Nothing happened the way I thought.....

First of all - I was not able to fit in to the outfit that I said I would wear on my birthday (circumstances beyond my control I have to concede).... I did not really stick to my work out plan, I did loose a few pounds, but not enough to make a significant difference in the outfit. And to be quite honest, the wait lost was completely due to the fact that I have been sick for the last month or so and have not be able to eat much.

Secondly - I did not have all of my friends with me when I celebrated this year. Last year was a complete surprise that my sister pulled together a party without my knowledge and I was most shocked that she was able to get a few of my closest friends to attend the gathering at my house. I did have one really really good friend who saved the day for me.... And to her I am forever and always be indebted to her for doing that.

So here is how the day went today:
Up about 11am (still sick) did not fell much like eating anything.... grabbed a cup of tea and that was about it. Checked my email - a couple of my friends send my e-cards...I did get a couple of calls as well.... Ended up having to run an errand for my mother and sister... but the second errand was very fruitful - got me a sweet pair of diamond earrings and a dolphin bracelet out of that one (awesome right).... Well one was a gift to myself (honestly i have given up waiting for people to buy me stuff - so if i see it and like it - damn it i am getting it). After that, got into a small fight with my mother - she was being a pain in the arse as usual.... Anyway, trying not to think about how sucky the day had going so far... I kept focus on my new jewelry and smiled all the way home. When i got home and realized that no-one was calling to say - hey it's your birthday i will be there to pick you up in a minute - i started to get gloomy again. The mother baked me a rum cake (which was awesome) and the sister got me an ice cream cake - which the baby decided to eat with her fingers....so we had to work quickly to light the candles and sing the song. That done - i realize that it was almost 7 pm and I had not heard from one of my bestest friends in the world. I had seen an email from her earlier in the day but not directly to me. So I figured the e-card was held up for some reason... then the fact that it was after work and she still had not called me, I picked up the phone and did what I had to do. So I called her....... her reply - "oh my god, i completely forgot" Well there you have it. She said that we should home she ate and have some wine and then suggested that i come over to her house (she apparently was in no condition to drive). I decided that is not how i wanted to spend the remainder of my birthday that way - so i said my good byes and that was that.

Meanwhile - back at Casa de Insane - things were getting rather shaky when a person was invited who really should not have been invited. Anyway, cradle robbing should be a crime punishable by serious pain and torture. I needed to escape because of that and so I tired. I know that my other bestest girl was getting off work sometime after 9 so i called her to help me with my escape and true to form she came through for me with flying colors. She even made a cake for me (she is awesome). We went to dinner and have a couple of drinks.

I just got home - and had to record this day before I take my medicine. I really need to re-access my life as it is now and make a decision on what my next move will be. But I just need to make it through the next couple of days- I have a gathering tomorrow (well actually later today) and then a speed-dating event next week.......That should be some interesting entries... so stay tuned.

Happy Birthday To ME......

Happy Birthday to me........

No big plans... don't know if I am even going out tonight... how sad. I got a couple of birthday wishes, a couple of e-cards... and an awesome cake... but no gifts or paper cards. Alas the day is still early....

Ladies Night - November

We had our November gather at my house on the 17th. It was a blast... we ate, drank, and laughed. I am glad the ladies were able to make it.... Sometime between 8 pm and 130am... we had covered every subject in the world...from weddings, to pregnancy, to religion, you name it we talked about it. I am really glad to connect with these fabulous ladies... even if it is once a month....

Next up - December 15....I am so looking forward to it.

Hey God, It's Me

Well... back at the beginning of the month, I got sick... thought nothing of it. But after getting better I thought i was in the clear.. then bam!! in the middle of the month, 11/12 to be exact, I side swiped again... this time I was knocked completely on my arse.... No you must understand that I hate going to the doctor or the hospital... but on 11/18 I found myself in the emergency room... hacking like crazy. The official diagnosis - Bronchitis.

That was 2 weeks ago... and I was good, I took all of my medicines that I was suppose to... right.. That would mean that I would be better by now...right. WRONG... Yeah I went to the doctor today because I am still now feel better, back with the congestion, runny nose, the nasty cough. NOW - I have a viral infection. YEAH.

My birthday is in 2 days and I am sick again... like I said before if I am not in the hospital hooked up to to tubes... I am going out on my birthday......

The Thing You never expected

OK... so I saw something today that turn my stomach, made me cringe and just plain upset the delicate balance that is my life. I am too mortify to re-tell the entire story. I know this does not make sense but it I just needed to put it out there so that the universe could make it right again. Mothers - can't live with them, can't live with them.

This something that happened today - has open my eyes to some serious realities and I need to make some serious changes immediately. I just need to wrap my head around it... and move to hell on. I am still on the "oh my fucking god" phase. I try to put it into words but that is all I can come up with is "oh my fucking god"

OMFG.

No!!! Not again

Flu Flu go away comeback another day.

Why is it that you get sick when you have shit to do... I am suppose to got to a friends birthday celebration tonight... tomorrow I have another birthday party (cute mens will be there) and another friend's birthday is also tomorrow. And me, I sound like someone is choking me and my head feel like it is 4 times it's actual size.

I am praying that my birthday is not like this... I am going out come hell or high water. If I am not in the hospital in intensive care... I am going out.