IF A MAN WANTS YOU

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord!? If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...
A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...
Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.....
You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

My New Skill

Well….Today I found out that I am psychic. Yeah me, psychic can you believe it. Here is the story.

So I went out with this guy… had a really nice time and he apparently did as well… He said he’d call. I emailed him the next day to say thank you for the date and I got this reply: I get a reply: “I had a nice time as well. We will have to do it again. Have a good weekend”. I took that to mean yeah there might be a second date. (Mistake 1)

So after a week goes by and no call, I just t assumed that he was busy. (Mistake 2) So I being the girl, emailed him just to make sure I was not mistaken that there was some sort of interest. I sent a quick email asking how his weekend was and brought up something from our conversation… He replied back and asked how my weekend was. So again I assumed (mistake 3) maybe there is something there. Ok so I replied, and got another reply. So I being an independent woman – just went for it and send an email asking him out. Yeah I did it. That was last week. And today this is the email I got:

"Sorry I haven't written you back. As you probably figured out I have also been dating someone else and I think I want to see where that will go.I had a nice time with you and think you are attractive and a nice person.Good luck."

Well blow me down….. I am psychic. Yeah me, psychic can you believe it. So many things were floating around in my head from not replying to something over the top. But being the level headed “sexy bitch” that I am. I made it short and sweet…. “Sorry….maybe my psychic ability was on vacation… Have Fun and Good Luck to you.

Yeah me, psychic. I am still coming to terms with it.

World's Shortest Fairy Tale

I got this email today:

Once upon a time, a girl asked a guy "Will you marry me?" The guy said "No" and the girl lived happily ever after and went shopping, dancing, drank margaritas, always had a clean house, never had to cook, stayed skinny and farted whenever she wanted.

The end.


Nice ain't it. :-)

Word of the Day

Per T.R.D. today's word is:

Cockapotamus

Kids please form 10 sentences using this word.

I am done

So I cancelled my Match.com membership today. I just can't be bothered anymore. Once the subscription expires in December I am completely through... don't want to hear about or see another online dating website. I am going to set my firewall to block them all, damn-it. It has been the worst mistake I've ever made.

Although I should mention that I got one really nice date out of it. ONE. Enough said...

I am just going to concede defeat and put my application in at the convent.

What's a girl gotta do...

I mean damn.

Ladies Night - September

It's been a while since the last Ladies Night get together..... Booty hosted this evening at her new house (now so new anymore - she bought it in April) and has been doing some renovating/updating since before she moved in. It was myself, Dreads, Legs, Booty and another friend (no nickname as yet). It was small... we had finger food and wine of course... this time we were good between the 5 of us we only made it through 3.5 bottles of wine. I am feeling quite nice at the moment.

It was announced that Dreads is getting married May 2007..... so now that is another wedding to get ready for. My first begins with April 07, then May 07 then August 07, it is going to be a busy year. I need to get my arse in shape since i am going to need all the strength I can muster to keep up with all the stuff that is going to be happening next year.... mind you, next year is just a couple of short months away. The pressure. I need to find a date to these weddings, it would be quite sad to show up with no one. First I've got to get into shape and then find a man to escort me - the pressure - damn......

I am so happy for they all... they have found their special person... the one that makes that happy, makes them grown and make them love like they haven't loved before... I am so glad for them. Now I just need to find my own someone special.

Red Headed Slut!!!

Move over Alabama Slamma - the redheaded slut is the new sheriff in town. I met up with E last night for drinks and general mischief making, and we ended up at the Blarney Stone. I needed to get out... plus I got my hair did yesterday as well...I looked so good. I looked so god - Was rocking the sexybitch hard. Anyway... the blarney stone was fun only because E had me laughing my arse off....Definitely a good drinking buddy (she is a cool chick all around, but especially so when she's had a couple). Considering the bar overflowed with SB's and not attractive men, it was still a good time. Not one single flirt, no one bought us drinks, no looks, no nothing. WTF is wrong with men. I mean seriously.

Someone sent this email to me today!!!

I totally agree with it..... and yes I am one of the ones waiting (not so patiently at the top).

------------------Girls--------------

-----------are like apples------

-------on trees. The best ones-----

-----are at the top of the tree.-----

---The boys dont want to reach---

--for the good ones because they--

-are afraid of falling and getting hurt.-

-Instead, they get the rotten apples-

from the ground that aren't as good,

but easy. So the apples up top think

something is wrong w/ them when in

-reality they're amazing. They just--

---have to wait for the right boy to ----

come along, the one who is

------- brave enough to-------

------------climb all------------

--------------the way-------------

-------------to the top------------

-----------of the tree.---------

Why?

Why am I having annoying days... I would really like to know. To be quite honest... Everything in the world seems to be bothering me lately.... The project I am working on, the face that match.com sucks, and to top it all off - I am breaking out like a teenager. Go figure.

What is it - I never had an acne problem before - I mean a few pimples hear and there but now my face look bad, really bad. I just started using proactiv again an I am hoping that it works. But damn it I've made an appointment to get my face checked.

Match.com - don't even get me started...Shoes do you hear me - Sexy f***ing shoes. They could be on my feet now. Yes it is official I am an arse.

I don't even what to talk about the project - it is too damn depressing.

Oh well... Sorry for the rant but I needed to vent - and you don't know me so you can't judge

Today is a Jose C. Day

Yeah... What a day what a day. A 2-3 shots of Jose day. I shall not bore you with the details but I need to be distracted in a big way.

So Match.com..... what can I say. I am trying but my patience is wearing thin. So you see a guy you think you want to met... Going by the pictures he's posted and the stuff he wrote... Oh he seems to be interesting. So you wink and wait. And you wait and wait... And each time you sign in you are reminded that that person did not have to courtesy to say "Thanks but no thanks". Then you get emails the length of a master's thesis that make your eyes glaze over. Now, mind you I have not problem with getting your shit out there in the beginning.. But you I need to know that you like squirrels... Hell no. Normal people most often referred to time pasing in days, weeks, months, even years. Not Winters... Who the hell talks like that. Oh, but I guess that there is something in my profile that screams.... Yes squirrel boy pick me, pick me.

Then there are the beautiful people. The cute (actually Hot is a better way to descibe them physically) guys who are only looking for skinny bitches. Apparently they don't want them either cause if you did not realize - You are using match.com just like me fella. So get the fuck of your high horse and talk to the girls that may be interested in you. Cause you know what you may be hot but you could have personality of prick. So Be nice, you never know when you are going to need a fluffly chick to call 911 for your ass when the skinny bitch fucks you over.

Slap Me

I've done something that I am beginning to regret - Yes, I joined match.com again. Am I an ass or what. I guess I am glutton for punishment. I guess I just love being rejected by total stranger. (subconsciously that is). I was fine with it the day I signed up but today I am not feel it at all.

I guess since they have my money, I should make the best of it. The man pool is very murky, like some dropped a load in the water.... I am just seeing crap. Maybe I am a shallow bitch, who know. But damn it, if I am going to look at you everyday - I want some eye candy - if that makes me a shallow bitch - I'll wear it proudly. I am a good catch...If you did not get the memo - I am on Sexy Bitch and I ain't settling or lowering my standards for no one... If he don't measure up - he can kiss my big black ass and move to fuck on. I am a grown ass woman who has is intelligent, cute, and confident with who she is after all the shit she's had to deal with in her life. So if this is what I have to do to put myself out there then so be it.

Change is a coming!!!!!

So, I've decided to make some changes in my life. I am working on the internal me and now I've taken a couple steps with the external me. About 2 weeks ago, I change my hair color - I went from brown (which really was the sun having its way with my black hair).... To red under tones and copper highlights. I've also for the first time in my life (I swore I could never touch my eyebrows) I had my eyebrows done. I can honestly say it makes a big difference. I have a couple more things in the works but will hold off tell you about them until I'm ready to unveil them. **Hint, Hint - the girls***

What does it mean?

So today at the Salon the weirdest thing happened.

I was on the phone and one of the stylists said oh look at the bird. I did not pay it much attention until it flew into the salon. A white dove. Of all things to come in to the salon. It just came in, look around for a while... then flew over me and watch me. As if to say hi, I have a message for you. I on the other hand did not take it that way and I got out of its way. I decided to shit and leave.

So I cleaned up the mess and that was the end of it. So please tell me, What does it mean?

TSB, the new sport of Divas

TSB - Throwing Skinny Bitches

The rules are simple.....Us beautiful, intelligent, strong minded, and sexy as hell women try to throw skinny bitches as far a possible. Much like the shot-put, discus and even javelin throwing contest, TSB involves skill and determination. You must concentrate and ignore the screams coming from the skinny bitch and proceed. The winner will be handsomely rewarded - just with the sheer sense of accomplishment. I know I would definitely for a hundred percent elated.

Another Friday Night......

Well as you can see it is 10 pm on a friday night - a night that is neither too hot or too cold. And where am I... certainly not out viewing the best eye candy that boston has to offer...certainly not making fun of the skinny bitches with no clothes on, certainly not knocking back alabama slammers like they were Koolaid... NO... I am home. I have to be up and out of the house by 6 am, because I am a commited responsible person (no i did say someone was responsible for committing me). I guess the best I can do is watch a movie or read one of my trashy romance novels. Such is my life at the moment. Is there hope for me? Damnit, there better be.

Hello My Name Is M. and I am a Computer Addict!!!!

I am working on a project right now where I don't have access to a computer and boy do I feel naked. I did not realize how dependent I had become on the computer, not just the internet (I really miss that) but just being able to type a letter, whip up a spreadsheet or two, send an email or do research. I honestly don't remember when I got hook but damn if I am not going through withdrawals. When did the computer and the word processing functions become so part of everyday life. I mean, I am having the hardest time being able to function without the use of a computer or a pocket pc. Wow....

Yes, I admit it. I am a computer addict.

I have to be honest, I am working on getting computer and internet access on the project I am working on right now... It has been and continues to be a long painful process. Did not realize the project would be so difficult either - I guess you never know what you'll get when you take on a new project. In my case I knew it was but I did realize it was this bad.

Quote of the Day

I went to a Jamaican restaurant for lunch the other day - as I was talking towards the place the owner/cook was sitting outside. When I reached him is said to me, with his Jamaican accent:

"My, you look fit. You wanna fight"

All I could do is laugh. That is the best line I've heard in a long time.

Am I Mean?

Sometimes some members of my family a pain in my arse. I mean damn - right at this moment I just want to walk away. To where I have no idea, just someplace where I can't be found. My sisters and brothers in particular are asses and should be smacked very hard, actually I could think of worse but I am trying to control my anger, temper and hatred right now.

I am beginning to regret not big a total ass when I was a teenager and young adult.... I should have been a badassss kids and gotten myself in a whole lot of shit but no I didn't. No I was on the straight and narrow and look where the fuck it's gotten me. Oh well... I guess I have to live with it now and just suffer... Unless someone out there wants to "take me away" :-)

OK Damn-it I ain't that strong...

Well today I cried and cried. I am not emotionally equip to handle death. I admit it, I am a wimp.

I went to the funeral of one of my best friend's brother this morning. Needless to say, it was a sad day all around. But more so because he was only 18 years old with a life full of potential. He was going to be one of those good guys that make it despite what was happening in the community. He was a good kid, I mean he was into sports, his family and his community all in a positive way. A way that would make a parent and even strangers proud. His passing is still a great disbelief. I remember this cute little boy all of 4 hanging out with his big sister. Over the years he grew into a fine kid ready to take on the world with his love and courage. He will be missed. My heart goes out to his family especially his sister, my friend.